There is a real clear pattern emerging with Jonathan; anything that is really exciting is too much to handle and he melts into one hot mess.

He’s sassy, he’s rude, he’s whinny, he’s very reactive. He just doesn’t know where to put all that energy and it bubbles and boils over the top until he’s screaming and thrashing out and I’m thinking drinking is a very reasonable coping mechanism.

As soon as the exciting thing has begun, and during and once it is complete, everything is hunkydorey, a-o-k, back to regular scheduled programming.

For a kid who can barely regulate himself on a mundane day, it’s easy to see how the blips of special school trips and birthdays can throw him over the edge.

Thank goodness we are generally boring people and we can continue to teach the everyday regulation (and by everyday I mean every. single. day…every hour…every minute), and in time hopefully be able to handle the blips a little better.

Now, somebody please pass the chips. And a beer.



6 thoughts on “Excitement

  1. Hi, I have been reading your blogs with interest. Was your child prenatally exposed to any alcohol (even small amounts)? Many of the behaviours you discuss are congruent with FASD. I am raising an adoptive daughter who has been diagnosed with this. Many children who pass through the care system have been exposed and it is routinely misdiagnosed as ADHD, ODD, RAD, conduct disorder, Autism, bi-polar and behavioural problems. Most paediatricians and health care professionals are unaware of it prevalence and base it on facial features (only caused by alcohol consumed on day 18-21 of pregnancy) meaning that for the vast majority of FASD individuals it is an invisible disability, though their brain has still been damaged Traditional parenting methods will rarely work and a neuro-behavioural model is more suited to those with brain differences such as FASD, ADHD and Autism in order to reduce the occurrence of secondary disabilities which can be exacerbated by incorrect interventions. You sound like you are doing a fabulous job of raising your son and I have enjoyed reading your blog. Thank you.

    • Thanks so much for reading and ypur comments. As far as we know, from what BM says, J was not exposed to alcohol or drugs. My husband and I are both social workers and have (and do) work a lot with kids who have FASD, as far as we can figure J’s challenges stem from severe neglect and his multiple (6) placements before us. Although its not out of the realm of possibilities, as you mentioned many of the children who come into care face life with an FASD diagnosis and yes, I too find it is often misdiagnosed. Thanks so much for reading:)

      • That is good to hear, wishing every success on your journey, you sound like you are doing an amazing job despite the many challenges you find you are facing.

  2. It’s good that you’re recognising all the triggers. It must be tough having to contain your own excitement about things to support that calm, especially on special occasions. I’m working with Katie on grounding her energy to one place in her body when she’s over-excited and teaching her to breathe into her legs and feet to stand still for example. Might that help you too? Xx

    • Thanks:) We do a program called Zones of Regulation, and although he has picked up on it really fast, when emotions are so intense he can’t apply it. It’s interesting you mentioned legs though…at night he doesn’t want me to rub his back but only his legs. And he runs all day long. I wonder if that’s his ‘energy’ spot…?

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