I’ve been wanting to ask Anthony his thoughts on adoption for awhile now, and I finally had the opportunity this past week as we were stranded in doors by a blizzard. No school, no work, just a day to hang at home and be lazy:)
Anthony is 11 years old and is my step son. He lives with us 50% of the time; a mixture of weekends and weekdays and we see him every morning before school when he comes for breakfast. He was the only child between Gord and I, until last year, and he is still the only child between his mom and step dad. Needless to say adopting Jonathan was a shock to his system!
Jonathan has now been with us for 13 months and below are Anthony’s honest and unedited answers to my questions on his feelings around Jonathan and adoption.
What is the hardest thing about adopting a brother?
I like being an only child better because people pay more attention to the younger sibling.
What’s the best thing about adopting Jonathan?
That I’m not lonely anymore.
What did you think adopting was going to be like before he moved in?
I thought he would be a different age. I wanted an older sibling.
What is it actually like?
It’s interesting. It’s just that my expectations were a lot higher than they should have been. I expected him to be more mature.
What is it like having a brother with a disability?
Honestly I don’t think that being deaf is a disability. I know it effects his hearing and all, but once he has his ears (CI’s) on he can still hear and if it’s a more older person they know how to read lips and once they get older they can be more mature.
What’s the most annoying thing Jonathan does?
When he says ‘why’ repetitively.
What’s the coolest thing about Jonathan?
That he likes to play games a lot. Like hide and go seek and stuff like that.
Would you want to have another adopted brother or sister?
Yes but only if they are older, about my age and over.
Do you think it’s different having a brother who’s adopted? Or is it like any other brother?
It’s basically like any other brother, it’s just that the parents are sort of getting a head start because they are usually older than a new born.
What do you think about his birth mom and dad?
I don’t know, some parents aren’t really fit for a child like Jonathan so people shouldn’t have a child if they know they can’t take care of a child then they shouldn’t have a child.
Do you think that he’ll want to meet them one day?
Maybe if he figures out that he had a mother and father.
Do you know anybody else who has adopted brothers or sisters? Or is adopted?
One year in school there was a kid in my class who was adopted. He told us. I was like, meh, ok.
Do you have any other thoughts on adoption or Jonathan you want to share?