This week we got news that Jonathan’s biological parents received his new health care card in the mail by mistake. By BIG mistake.
The one that we applied for so carefully so as not to link his old records with his new ones. The one that when we called to apply for we said ‘no sorry, I don’t have his old health number or any other information’ so that this does not happen. Yeah, that one.
That castle wall of safety and security we’ve been working on to protect this little guy from anything bad happening again, feels like ti’s crumbling. And a tad leaky. And a lot vulnerable.
This card has his changed name, his new name. His new health number. Information that is highly private and confidential and against a lot of laws to share with anybody but me. And the letter that came with it probably had my name on it too, we think (it’s one of the many questions we are currently trying to have answered). So potentially they can find our address, our phone numbers, this blog…
Alberta Health is ‘looking into it’ and have apologized. Which is I guess all they can do.
But it doesn’t change the fact that people have this information who shouldn’t. For many reasons, they just shouldn’t have it. Period.
Big Issue. Big conflict within.
I’m mad at the worker who made this mistake, but we all make mistakes
I want them to pay somehow for what they’ve done (the worker, Alberta Health, I don’t care who, but somebody), but what difference is that going to make?
I’m unsettled that we have to be second guessing ourselves about back of the head photos, blurry photos, whether we locked the door, if he should play outside by himself in the yard…We shouldn’t have been put in this situation.
I’m anxious that they might show up at our door, or call me, out of the blue and I was not prepared to deal with any of this for years to come.
I’m upset because every time we fill out a form or give somebody his full name we will wonder where that information is going and if the wrong people will access it.
And I’m sad for him because when Jonathan gets older he may not have the choice to contact his birth mum and dad, not if they choose to find him first. And that’s so unfair to this boy.
Not knowing what might happen is a terrible feeling.